Hold on, let's back up a bit.
What do I mean by "a new way of living"? I've spent a good portion of the last 8 months exploring the answer to this question. At first I thought it was a way of living with less suffering, or more emotional stability, or increased mental clarity.
All of those are a part of it - and I must admit, they are nice. But what all of those stem from, and what this really comes down to, is a way of living in which life is free from having to maintain a fictional self-image. A way of living in which authenticity and honesty seem more sane than drama and lies.
Living for the sake of living, not for the sake of an image.
If that's of interest to you, keep reading - it's about to get a lot more interesting. If you're skeptical, keep at it, you'll need skepticism to trigger this.
Test the credibility of everything I claim in your own life.
"There is no you"- Sounded odd when I first heard it. I didn't know what to take it for.
I mean, I spent my whole life being me, of course there is a me. But, I was open to the concept, though only because I was interested in the supposed benefits (for me, of course).
Anyway, what it basically means is this: What you think of as you, what the self-concept in your brain and the sense-of-self in your body both allegedly refer to doesn't exist.
These words exist. Well, the perception(/experience) of these words exist, obviously. That reality in which they exist, the reality of experience happening exactly right now, does not include a you.
What we think of when we say "I" (and test me on this, look at how credible it is in your own life) isn't the human organism. We sometimes say that's what it means, but in reality, "I" refers to an alleged, personal experiencer of life to which life and experiences happens, and which pilots thoughts and actions.
Right? When you say "I think", you mean there's something outside of the thinking, doing the thinking.
"I breathe"? Something outside of the breathing, doing the breathing.
"I feel"? Something behind the feeling, to which the feeling is happening.
Your entire life you've lived through the perspective that this you is real. You've probably asked "Who am I?", or if you're especially philosophical, "Am I?", but the real question, the new game in town, is "Is it possible that there is no I, that there's just life happening on it's own?"
If you ask that, with a full honest intention of discovering if it's actually true (which means ignoring concepts and looking at the reality to which they're supposed to refer), you might just see that it is.
Some people who have tried this noticed that it's genuinely credible that there's just experience, and no them experiencing it.
I noticed that all of life runs on autopilot - thoughts, feelings, actions, drives, and experiences are all definitely happening and locatable, and they all seem to be triggering each other. A self outside of them, causing them to happen or experiencing them, isn't part of the equation at all.
Basically, what happens when you see this is that your mind's belief in the self is permanently recognized to be false. From there, the self-image loses its significance, and attention naturally focuses on authentic reality as opposed to fictional beliefs.
This isn't the end of all problems, or dishonesty, or the self-image, as you'll find. What it is, is a major stepping stone in dealing with all of these.
It's in life's best interest to check this out.
If you need any help doing this don't hesitate to ask, either through the comments or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I'll be updating this post regularly with questions from confused readers:
So are you saying that we are simply just observers to what our mind/body is doing? That we don't have free will? We are just experiencing?
No, I'm saying that there isn't an observer to what the mind/body is doing. There's just the observation, of which the actions and qualities of the mind/body are a part. The body's known AS an experience, right? Sights, feelings, etc. Thoughts are known AS experience. Hell, everything is.
You're assuming that there's some you watching these experiences go on as if they're a move. An audience and a film. But in reality, there's only the film.
I'm saying that it's not your mind/body, there is no you to own it. It's just a mind/body.
There's no us to have free will.
There's no you to experience - no experiencer at all. There's just the experience flowing about. No you in the audience watching the film, there's just the film.
And most importantly, I'm saying if you test me on this, and see if it's true by looking directly at the present moment reality, your mind will be permanently and effortlessly liberated from having to maintain a fictional self-image.
A trigger. See it once, and that's it.
or that the ego is my automatic response thought, action, drive etc ? Is there something I want to disolve/or kill?
Well, look at the reality behind the concept of "ego". I mean, it's really referring to your self-image, right. Which, in reality, is nothing more than thoughts about a self.
How in the world can you dissolve thoughts? You can't - anymore than you could dissolve a traumatic memory.
What you can do is see that the beliefs that give credibility to false thoughts, are false. Said in another way, you can test to see if a thought is true by seeing if it's contents are still real independent of the thought.
Is there a real computer in your room, independent of the thought about one? Is there a real pink elephant in your room, independent from the thoughts about one?
Is there a real you experiencing and piloting life, independent from the thoughts about one?
If you see that there isn't, and if it's actually, really true that there isn't, then there's no need to "dissolve" the ego - your mind won't give it any credibility anymore. Your mind's evolved not to take seriously false thoughts, as long as it sees that they're false.